There are a lot of self proclaimed “experts” out there. I am completely okay with this as long as they play nice and add occassional value. The issue is some are strong egos telling others that they are “doing it wrong.” Now, some of this is probably marketing: painting the pain as I like to call it. But, a lot is just plain bullying and hard sales tactics threaded into supposed community conversations.
Where Are They Now? Have you ever looked back at the most popular kids from high school? I can say with confidence that most I knew are living mundane lives. Funny how the renegades were geeks – Bill Gates, Larry Page, Oprah Winfry. Bullies and clicques are still around and they are an unfortunate bi-product of online communities. These communities are fueled by real people. That is certain to bring out their personalities, which is not always good.
Big “Egos” – My husband has traded options since the late 80’s and will confess that traders have big “egos” over the phone. (That’s not the word he used, but I want to keep it G rated.) It’s equally so online. When there is little risk that they might run into you in person, it’s amazing how people will behave. Some only talk within their clicque and others will talk with you as long as you’re agreeing with them or a potential client. Regardless, don’t take anything personally. If they really are experts and very busy, they may have their assistant posting anyway. (Bad idea, btw.)
The Gomer Pile Approach - I subscribe to good old fashioned Gomer Pile friendliness. Anyone who comments on my stuff is sure to receive a
reply within 24 hours. It might just be a quick hello, but it doesn’t take long. I spend 30 minutes total each day managing three very large online networks. I’m amazed when someone I perceived as a perky-star has dry and unusual comments that run counter to their other posts. I get a sense that those perky-posts are staged or there are multiple posters.
The Crab Pot – As you grow your business you will become more exposed and others will try to knock you down. You need to prepare yourself for this and instead of feeling bad – welcome it. When you become a target, you have become an expert. You’ve arrived! The hardest thing to do is not react when attacked. Some people are just being outspoken, others had a bad day and others are bent on making you look bad.
Virtual Bridges Still Burn – Honestly, you need to keep it cool online. You never know when the person you dissed becomes Larry Ellison and decides to hunt you for sport. Also, the guy you gave a simple suggestion to could have build his business around that concept and become Richard Branson. Be kind. Ignore the snobs. Don’t let the web turkeys get you down.
But don’t get complacent and throw a party. If you are reaping the rewards of new clients now, 
ruin a longer customer relationship. Even though I’m a marketer, I’ve been a sales manager and we all know in small business, Everbody’s Got To Sell. Here are some observations and remedies for your jangling sales nerves.